3 Ways to Increase Your Resiliency
Jul 16, 2023Imaging sitting down with your best friend to play a new video game. They have unlimited lives but you only get one. Which of you is more likely to advance to the next level and the next level after that? And more importantly, who is going to enjoy playing the game more?
Want a cheat code to give yourself those unlimited lives?
Change your mindset, transform your entire existence.
Why is mindset important? Because mindset shapes how we perceive and navigate the world around us. Our mindset influences our thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and actions, ultimately determining our success and well-being.
“Our life is shaped by our mind; we become what we think.”
– Buddha
A positive mindset empowers us to see opportunities even in the face of setbacks. It helps us cultivate optimism, resilience, and a belief in our abilities. With a growth mindset, we embrace challenges, and even view failure as progress. This mindset helps us to keep going when things are hard, allowing us to achieve our goals.
A negative mindset sees opportunities through a skeptical and fearful lens. People with a fixed mindset hold limiting beliefs, convinced that their constant worry serves them. They become so focused on the risks and limitations that they can't see the potential and possibilities. When a setback occurs, it not only confirms their existing negative thoughts, quitting becomes a source of relief from all that worry. Giving up becomes a reward.
Positive people don't ignore life's challenges, they accept and use them to their advantage.
When life throws curveballs our way, it may seem like the universe is conspiring against us. But it's in those moments that the universe whispers its secrets, offering valuable insights, lessons, and guidance.
A growth mindset views a challenge as a playground to build and test their skillsets. They've hacked their belief system to gain the equivalent of unlimited video game lives, respawning with more knowledge and determination every time.
Ready to change your mindset? Here are three ways to increase your resiliency by shifting how you view failure.
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Failure is not a reflection of your worth. Failure does not define your worth; instead, it lays out a map for your growth and learning. Adopt the belief that you are a work in progress who can develop through effort and persistence.
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Failure is necessary for your growth. Set specific goals that stretch beyond your current abilities and require you to take risks. View the possibility for failure as a feature of the stretch goal instead of a bug. This is how you grow.
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Failure is not an ending. Instead of seeing failure as a final outcome, reframe it as valuable feedback on your journey towards success. Use that feedback to make improvements that get you closer to your goal. Pause and ask yourself, “If this challenge is happening for me, what new information do I need to notice?”
Practice seeing setbacks as important pieces to your puzzle that you can only get by stretching and failing. Your failures hold the key to unlocking your full potential. Embrace the risks, learn from your mistakes, and bounce back each time stronger than before.